“What-ifs” and Regrets Can Cause You Grief
Mistakes are Made Have you ever said “what-if”…? Of course you have, we all have. Sometimes our minds drift to the unknown territory of the “what-ifs”, “could haves”, “should haves”, and “might-have-beens”. However, sometimes the constant pain of our regrets and continually second-guessing ourselves can engulf us causing our thoughts to be overwhelmed with confusion and sadness. These feelings can only worsen a grief stricken situation. Do you have any regrets concerning your loss? Do you find yourself asking relentlessly about the “what-ifs”? Does your mind repeat...
Read MoreExpressing Thanksgiving During Grief
Being Grateful Even in Grief During the Thanksgiving holiday families gather together to share their time, love and favorite foods. Many people use this time to express what they are grateful for. However, for those grieving it may be difficult to participate in the Thanksgiving spirit. The holiday may be different because the family dynamics have changed or maybe a loved one is absent from the family table. It could be that the feelings of loss are just so overwhelming it seems impossible to be grateful for anything! No matter what the circumstances, if you sincerely search, you will find...
Read MoreMoving Forward Through Grief
Roadmap for Your Journey Grief comes in all shapes and sizes; every griever is different and each grief situation is unique. Regardless of age, each person goes through a grieving process after a significant loss. The loss may include anyone or anything significant to that person. There’s no particular system for dealing with grief, there’s no exact time frame for healing and there’s no precise definition for recovery. However, there is a roadmap to guide you through this difficult and personal journey and it provides practical activities, encouragement, and hope to anyone experiencing...
Read MoreDealing With Fear After Loss
Fear is a Normal Reaction After the initial response to loss, fear can arise as a normal reaction. Some form of fear usually manifests as a result from tragedy, loss or death of a loved one. Fear can present itself in a variety of ways. You may be afraid of the dark, being left alone, being around new people or getting hurt. You may be afraid of death and dying. You may even develop fears you never had before. Sometimes people may experience a generalized fear where they’re not exactly sure what they are afraid of. You may find yourself holding on tighter to possessions and/or people...
Read MorePrayer During Grief (or Anytime)
Guidance and Support I am not religious. However, I am spiritual and I am a Christ follower. I look to God for supernatural strength when my own is inadequate. I talk to God a lot on any given day about an array of subjects and I talk to Him even more on bad days. Prayer during my grief was essential to me. Prayer is just time spent talking to God. Whenever you pray, you can discuss whatever you wish with Him. Sometimes I praise Him and thank Him for all my blessings. Sometimes I seek answers or guidance. Sometimes I whine and complain. Sometimes I’m angry and confused about the things...
Read MoreForgiveness is Essential in Grief
Lighten Your Load
Forgiveness is crucial on your grief journey, without it, it’s difficult to move forward. Unforgiveness is a destructive emotion so holding onto it may only make your heart feel worse. Unforgiveness carries a trunk full of heaviness that can weigh you down and delay your recovery. The burden of unforgiveness is too heavy for anyone to drag along in the grief journey. Lighten your load; open the trunk and deal with the mess of emotions inside.
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