Posts by tanyakilgore

Ask “Why?”

Posted on Mar 26, 2012 in All Blogs, Moving Forward, Overcoming Grief | 0 comments

So Many Questions Why do bad things happen? Why do young people die? Why do good people suffer? There are so many questions surrounding death, tragedy, and loss. So many questions but all too often, there are very few answers. After experiencing a loss of any kind, you may have concerns that demand answers. However, it can be a startling realization that not all questions can be answered. Sometimes, even the answers we do get may not be the answers we wanted. Desiring Answers Loss brings a sense of “out of control” to our lives so we, as grievers, seek answers to try to regain some sort...

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Experiencing Joy Along with Grief

Posted on Mar 15, 2012 in All Blogs, Death is Not the Only Cause of Grief, Loss of Pet, Moving Forward, Overcoming Grief | 0 comments

Roxy Today our family felt a great loss as our loyal companion died at 2:32 pm. Roxy was 16 years old and has been a gentle and stable figure in our clan for almost as many years. After being rescued from an abusive home she came to us distrusting and scared. However, it didn’t take long for Roxy to win our hearts and for her to claim us all as her family. Her past was redeemed with a beautiful life providing protection and unconditional love to her family; and the adoration was returned. The joy and love Roxy gave this family exceeds the pain of losing her today. I choose to feel that way;...

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A Griever’s Time of “Let Down” After the Holidays

Posted on Jan 31, 2012 in All Blogs, Moving Forward, Overcoming Grief | 4 comments

Holidays are Over, Back to Routine The hustle and bustle of the holidays have passed and everyone is settling into the routines of the New Year. Back to normal, whatever that is. For those grieving the loss of someone or something special, there is no normal; “normal” has changed for whatever reason. Nonetheless, it is a time for structure and “getting back into the groove” of life. As a recovering griever (I like that term because it depicts hope and progression but it also lets you know I will never stop remembering, missing, or loving who or what I have lost), I can tell you that...

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“What-ifs” and Regrets Can Cause You Grief

Posted on Dec 7, 2011 in All Blogs, Death is Not the Only Cause of Grief, Moving Forward, You Are Not Alone | 0 comments

Mistakes are Made Have you ever said “what-if”…? Of course you have, we all have. Sometimes our minds drift to the unknown territory of the “what-ifs”, “could haves”, “should haves”, and “might-have-beens”. However, sometimes the constant pain of our regrets and continually second-guessing ourselves can engulf us causing our thoughts to be overwhelmed with confusion and sadness. These feelings can only worsen a grief stricken situation. Do you have any regrets concerning your loss? Do you find yourself asking relentlessly about the “what-ifs”? Does your mind repeat...

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Expressing Thanksgiving During Grief

Posted on Nov 28, 2011 in All Blogs, Moving Forward, Overcoming Grief | 0 comments

Being Grateful Even in Grief During the Thanksgiving holiday families gather together to share their time, love and favorite foods. Many people use this time to express what they are grateful for. However, for those grieving it may be difficult to participate in the Thanksgiving spirit. The holiday may be different because the family dynamics have changed or maybe a loved one is absent from the family table. It could be that the feelings of loss are just so overwhelming it seems impossible to be grateful for anything! No matter what the circumstances, if you sincerely search, you will find...

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